DON’T LIMIT YOURSELF! That is the message I was getting this morning. I realized that I was still partly blaming others for my own unhappiness and dissatisfaction. Although I have become more accountable for my choices and actions, I have not completely taken responsibility. There’s a crack where I let blame and excuses get through. Unfortunately, as the saying goes, when we point a finger at someone else, there are three fingers pointing back at us. Whenever I blame someone else, I give my power up to them and in giving up my power, I am limiting myself by making myself small and weak. When I truly and deeply accept that EVERYTHING in my life is up to me, I become powerful, strong and LIMITLESS!
In my relationship, I have been living in my comfort zone, playing it safe. My ego thinks that it has to constantly protect itself from the possibility of hurt, embarrassment, shame, rejection. I can see that my mind has been playing tricks on me. I mistakenly thought that by not getting too attached, I wouldn’t risk any loss. Sacred that showing all of me would turn someone off, I hid some of these emotions away. Trying to mould myself into someone I think will be accepted and loved, I lose myself. In other words, by NOT risking loss, I lose the most; I lose ME!
Being ignorant or stubborn is definitely not the answer. Attempting to control our emotions or blaming them on others isn’t either. These are narrow paths. The way we can get closer to someone is by being totally open and vulnerable; allowing the other person to see us as we truly are not as a version of us we think they will like. Before we can experience this kind of intimacy with another, we need to be able to have it within ourselves which also means being open to ALL of your emotions and seeing YOURSELF as you truly are. This is the TRUTH TRIP.
We hold back thinking that we can protect ourselves from pain but essentially WE are the ones who get hurt. We blame others thinking that this frees us of responsibility but really it only restricts us from our full potential–our LIMITLESS! The ‘more’ you are yearning for is within. The power you desire is underneath all of those protective layers.
It’s like an onion. Once you start peeling this onion, you will start really knowing yourself and healing yourself. You will be able to let go of the facade, the falseness and the fear. With an new, expansive and enlightened awareness, you will feel yourself expanding. You will stop living small and start living LARGE! Get out of your comfort zone, take a risk and get to know yourself intimately… start peeling!!